Last week the Triplet Farm was featured on a second blog, The Mommy Mindset. I wrote this blurb about thriving as part of Sharon’s Thriving Mommy series. I really enjoyed writing this piece. It helped me realize just how far I have come as a woman and a mother in the last 3 years.
Thrive. It’s a word I heard quite often while my triplets were in the NICU. Failure to thrive are the words that send me back into panic mode. Luckily, my babies not only survived, they thrived. And so did I. This is my story on how I am thriving as mommy of triplets.
I was 30 and newly married when it hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized that for a college educated woman I was working a job that, for lack of a better word, was beneath me. Those three words, failure to thrive, described me. I was going nowhere fast. Not moving up and not happy with my career. So, I got a new job. Two years later I was still failing to thrive. By then, not only was I not succeeding in my new career, I felt as I was failing as a woman. We had tried to get pregnant for more than 2 years and nothing was happening. We sought help and less than a year later we were blessed with 3 oh so tiny babies. Life was good. And I finally became what I had wanted to be for what seems like my entire life – a mother. Little did I know that those three words would soon describe me once again.
I cannot even describe to you what life is like with (by the time they were all home) 4 month old triplets. It’s exhausting. It’s emotional. It’s not for the weak. My babies struggled in the NICU, but once they were home they flourished. They grew, and grew, and grew. But I failed to thrive. Sure, I was happy. But I was also sad. And I was tired. I wasn’t the woman who I once was. Their first year is very much a blur to me. I was just trying to survive not thrive.
It’s been more than 2 1/2 years since the first night I had three babies in our home. It’s been just over 6 months that I’ve finally felt like me again. The day I started The Triplet Farm blog is the day I remembered who I was. For so long I was “just a mother of triplets.” Last summer I decided that it was my time to thrive. It was my time shine. The kids were at an age where they were more independent. They could play together without me having to be in the same room. They were able to come to me if there was a problem or if they needed something. So, after assuring myself over and over that they weren’t totally dependent on me, I quietly stepped into another room and started The Triplet Farm. I starting making things and editing photos. I became a mother of triplets and a writer. I became a mother of triplets and a crafter. I became a mother of triplets and a photographer. I am thriving. Although I am still often tired and emotional, I am thriving as a mommy of triplets. I am thriving as a woman. I know that the place where I am in life right now is exactly where I am meant to be. My heart is full. My heart is happy.