Becoming a mom wasn’t easy for me. Once I finally did become pregnant I thought I was prepared. I thought I knew everything I needed to know to be a mother. Then I was told I was having triplets. My outlook on motherhood changed in an instant. I wasn’t sure I could carry 3 babies let alone raise them. I laid in bed at night, worried about everything during my pregnancy.
Here are 10 things I wish I could have told my pregnant self.
1) You are so strong and unbeliveably brave. You CAN do this. A triplet pregnancy is so stressful, but you (and the babies) will make it though just fine.
Oh I would have loved to have known that we would all end up making it. The unknowns and the stress of a multiple pregnancy is overwhelming!
2) The first time you hold your
baby babies it will feel like the only two people in the world are you and that baby. Time will freeze just long enough so that you have the chance to store that moment in your heart and mind forever.
Jase was 1 day old and Sadie was 9 days old when I held them for the first time. Miss Henley was almost 3 weeks old before I held her. I tear up just thinking about those moments. They are so special to me.
3) It’s okay if you don’t breastfeed. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
I tried my hardest, but I just couldn’t do it. My body just did not produce nearly enough milk. I felt so guilty that my babies had to have donated milk instead of mine. Today, I am more than thankful for those donors. They played a huge part in my babies survival.
4) You will want your mother’s advice every.single.day. Since she is no longer with us, your sister and mother-in-law will fill her shoes perfectly.
I’m more than thankful for them and their advice. They are both still my go to when I feel like I have no idea what I am doing!
5) You will feel like you are dying from lack of sleep. But, you won’t. I promise.
I’m still alive…barely. Seriously, the no sleep thing is the worst, right!
6) Don’t compare yourself to other moms. You don’t have to be perfect. While you’re at it, don’t compare your premature babies to full term babies. Just don’t do it.
This was so stinkin’ hard to do (or not do)! I still find myself comparing them to other kids their age, but not nearly like I used to!
7) Motherhood is not always sunshine and rainbows. It is so okay if you want to hide in your closet and cry.
8) You will hide in your closet and cry. More than once.
And in the bathroom, in the car…
9) You will love, love, love your babies with all that you are, but there will be days that you don’t like them.
Yep. On the days they break your dining room chair, rip down the curtains, cry and whine all.day.long. Those days your patience will be tested and most likely fail.
10) Being a mother is incredible. It’s intimidating. It’s amazing. It’s beautiful. It’s disgusting. It is the best job you will ever have.
Is there anything you wish you could tell your pregnant self? Let me know in the comments!